Saturday, December 22, 2007

Only about me?

How self-centered am I?

Sometimes I think too much, sometimes I think not enough. Is it wrong to be self-centered? I don't think so. But of course like with everything else in life, there has to be a limit.

The interesting thing though is that while I might be focused on me, because I am not an 'in your face' sort of person, most people would not think for the slightest moment that I am self-centered.

5 comments:

bharat chandran said...

Thoughts! I am addicted to thoughts. Most time when I think, I land up in another world. Start from some where, end up in no where.Which interests me is "most people would not think for the slightest moment that I am self-centered" why?

Deepali said...

Perception. Image.

I am not a nasty person and I am not saying that being self-centered = being nasty but the general trend is to think that way.

From my perspective I do something because it helps me in a certain way (which might not be obvious to others), but from their perspective I am doing this thing for others.

bharat chandran said...

I understand what you meant.Do you think that you help someone because you are so considerate? Well, I would say that you would feel like helping, might be because you feel better while helping. It is fetching your happiness, may be again self centered. You need to feel something and for achieving that, you do it. Here, we rarely see people who are humanitarians, so you stand out.

Deepali said...

I think most of how I deal with people would be how I would like to be dealt with (or not dealt with - whichever makes sense).

Also sometimes you just know what certain things feel like and you either want to save people from going through a bad experience or want to make them feel a new high so you help them.

It's like the 'do unto others as you would they do unto you' (not sure if the saying it right but I am sure you remember that one). So in a sense it is still self-centered but also guides actions and re-actions.

bharat chandran said...

I treat people as what they are. In most cases, I feel biased with the snap’s that I get when I meet them (when free, have a look at my blog about blink). I try not to deal with people, who are not of my type. I simply try to ignore which are not relevant to me and interact with few which make more sense to me.

We are what we are and I am what I am. When we guide our actions with their reactions, it should be synergyzing our interactions. Else, our actions might not carry much meaning.

When you try to save someone or may be help someone with some moral boost, you would be trying to help someone who would be similar to you or who would have travelled the same way that you might have travelled. So, they are some way similar to you and so, you might want them not to fall on things which you had fallen or may be you just want to show them some light from the candle you carry.

The feeling that we attain by sharing, would make us feel happy/ better/ important/ or may be something like similar depending on the situation. Isn’t it still self centric? Also, Is there anything wrong in being self centric?