You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness

The line is just so brilliant. It's from a song I've been looping.
Enjoy :)

Gotye - Somebody That I Used To Know feat. Kimbra




Lyrics -

Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it's an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I'll admit that I was glad it was over

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make it like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
No you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now you're just somebody that I used to know
Now you're just somebody that I used to know



Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was always something that I'd done
But I don't wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn't catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know


But you didn't have to cut me off
Make it like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
No you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Cleaning up!

Life is fulllllll of messes. It's just one clean up after another....

So true - Polish Proverb

Under capitalism man exploits man; under socialism the reverse is true. 

Shawn Achor: The happy secret to better work

Absolutely brilliant talk. Do spare 12:21 minutes to watch it. If it sounds interesting then do spend the 2 minutes for 21 days and let me know if your brain leads you to being happier and therefore more successful.



P.S. - Some of the TED videos are sooooo amazing. To check out more, please visit www.ted.com

I have learned

By Andy Rooney

[Found this written down in an old book for mine. Guess I picked the lines I liked best]

I have learned -

That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

That to ignore the facts, does not change the facts.

That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting the other person continue to hurt you.

That love, not time, heals all wounds.

That the easiest way for me to grow as a person, is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you missed.

That it is best to give advice only in two circumstances, when it is requested and when it is a life threatening situation.

That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.

That when you harbour bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

That the less time I have, to work with, the more things I get done.

That just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day.

That being kind is more important than being right.

Manage Time

So important to learn to Delegate and Dump correctly to maximize the time you have.

Image source - http://www.vitae.ac.uk

The idea of measuring and combining these two competing elements in a matrix has been attributed to both former US President Eisenhower and Dr Stephen Covey.
Eisenhower's quote, "What is important is seldom urgent and what is urgent is seldom important," sums up the concept of the matrix perfectly. This so-called "Eisenhower Principle" is said to be how Eisenhower organized his tasks. As a result, the matrix is sometimes called the Eisenhower Matrix.

Covey brought the idea into the mainstream and gave it the name "The Urgent/Important Matrix" in his 1994 business classic, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People". 

To read more visit - http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newHTE_91.htm
 

When will we make a real difference?

[Sorry the post is not as articulate as others might be. It's also too long. I'm not a writer and I'm not writing to bring about a change in the world. I'm a realist and I know change a little more than the next guy. I'm writing to get at least a few people to think. Thank you for reading (if you do)]

People always say look at the bright side of things. I always say look at the real side of things.

There is such a storm of comments, opinions, bashing, etc on social media sites about the Guwahati girl who was molested by a mob on July 10th outside a pub.

People are going to the extent of wanting a death penalty for at least the culprit who has been identified apart from calling him names and cursing him.

And all I feel is sad at the way things are in general. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad that people are talking about this incident, are forcing the police to do something, are getting politicians to make statements, etc. But really do people think that, that 17 year old girl is the only one who has gone through something like this?

Yes of course her circumstances were an extreme (I'm still horrified to think no one came forward right away to help her) because it was such a large mob, she was alone and it was on a busy street but there are so many women like her to whom such things (and worst) are happening even as you read.

Why is it that there is only outrage when one sees a YouTube video of the assault? Seeing is believing maybe. Which kind of makes me think that we weren't built right. Why can we only have empathy when something is staring us in the face?

Also while social media platforms make for a great place to voice opinions, why is it that we cannot will ourselves to do more? It so super easy to put up a status update, like a cause page, join a rally, but why is it that we always stop there. Why do we not do more? (And by 'we' I'm definitely not talking about people who are dedicating their lives to making this world a better place but rather the common average person like you and me).

And what about do more? That's still a larger question. The bigger tragedy is that this will be a 'hot topic' for a few weeks (unless the media finds they can juice the story a little more) and then everything will just die down. We will move on to the next topic - which just might be the 12th flop movie of some actor. No one will remember and few will care. Hopefully by then more of the molesters (trying really hard not to put some bad words and keep this 'clean' so please do the same if you decide to comment) will all be caught and our slow judicial system will be wise enough to give them a harsh punishment to avoid another outcry of the sorts that is happening now. But you know what won't die down? It will be the molestation of other women, rapes, domestic violence and as you all know the list goes on.

Of course I'm not delusional so I know these horrendous acts will never totally stop no matter what we do but can't we at least make it known that we condemn and punish such acts. Not just by some 350,000 (random number) comments or tweets or whatever but in our laws, in our justice system, in our police actions. In places where it really matters. In places where it is evident to everyone.

Our biggest action however should be to bring up our children right. Can we really make them understand AND believe respect towards women? Can we make them strong enough not just to understand right and wrong but to try and always choose right? Can mothers stop telling their daughters, in words and in actions, that they (the daughters) are inferiors and men are superior? Can fathers teach respect toward women, both in words and in actions, to their sons? Can we raise children to learn empathy more strongly? Shouldn't we at least try? Don't let your kids get away with bad behaviour. I'm not saying beat them up. Please no. On the contrary talk to them and make them understand that there is a line that shouldn't be crossed. That fun is okay as long as it's not hurting someone else. If you do all this and your kids turn out to be jerks, well then that's just one of the many tragedies of this world.

To all those people who are going on about what a minor was doing at a pub, I have a question for you - don't get happy, it's not 'did she deserve it' - everyone knows what all you people would say to that. My question is how much of a difference would age really make? I don't see a 27 year old women (who would legally be allowed at a pub) saving herself from those (this no cursing is tough) molesters.


Because I spend so much of my time thinking, I asked myself what would I have done had I been outside that pub. Would I have jumped in to save that girl? Honest answer is no. I am a coward and I hate it. I'm always avoiding messy situations. Always finding a way around things to keep life nice and quiet. Therefore I don't pass judgement on people who don't necessarily act but there is always a part of me hoping that there will be people out there who are braver than I am. Who don't think of consequences and inconveniences and just do what needs to be done. However, I keep thinking that I would have supported 40 people if they were fighting with the mob of the 30 molesters. And I know that there might be a lot of people who would do the same so maybe all that is needed is a couple of heroes who will fight for what is right.

In the past we have been shocked at stories like that of Keenan Santos and Reuben Fernandez, who did the right thing but paid the wrong price. Incidents like that scare people from coming forward and helping but really should the burden of helping a victim be on the shoulders of ordinary citizens? What is the police for then? And if we expect ordinary citizens to do extra-ordinary things then how can we make it easier for someone to help? Can we have a faster process of justice so those who come forward to help, don't find themselves tangles up in red tape and legalities. Can culprits be guilty until proven innocent? Can the political system give more support to citizen groups and NGOs? Maybe nothing will be a perfect fix but can't we take baby steps in the right direction?

Not that this might wake a lot of people up (since they aren't seeing anything) but I did dig out some available stats so the extent of the problem at least seems a little larger than it is with this one incident right now.

This means that -
A woman is raped every 24 minutes.
There is a dowry death nearly every hour.


Source - National Crime Records Bureau- http://ncrb.nic.in/CII2010/cii-2010/Chapter%205.pdf


2011 article -

Incidents of rape in the country have increased by a staggering 792% over the past nearly 40 years. This eight-fold increase is way ahead of other serious crime like murder, which increased by 106% robbery (27%) and kidnapping (298%). In fact the rise in rape stands out as the most steep compared to all cognizable crimes, which grew at 134% since 1971.

Read more at - http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-11-07/india/30368929_1_major-crimes-cognizable-crimes-crime-statistics


2008 story -

India stands third, leaving behind countries like Sri Lanka, Jordan and Argentina, when it comes to rape cases, latest data of the Union Home Ministry suggest. Ahead of India are only the United States and South Africa. 

[And if you are going to talk about size of country I don't see China as 2nd or 1st worse offender in rape cases]
Read more at - http://www.expressindia.com/latest-news/Its-official-India-3rd-worst-offender-in-rape-cases/396269/

According to reports appearing in the Indian media, there were 8391 reported cases of bride burning in India in 2010, working out to one such incident almost every hour

Read more at - http://www.wikigender.org/index.php/Domestic_Violence_in_India



How about we do a little more than just rant on social media sites?

Lily and Severus (Snape)

Love this poster. Must say that the last Harry Potter movie out did the story when it came to Snape's memory. It was beautifully made.

Never really hated Snape. Don't know if that's a bad thing (at least till the 6th book). Well then after the 7th book everyone loved Severus Snape so I didn't really care ;)  

Getting Along!

You don't need to be the same to get along...you just need some common ground.

Skylar Grey - I'm Coming Home (Arion Dubstep Remix)

If you like Dubstep chances are you'll like this song.

Enjoy!




If you want to sing along (for the little bit) -

I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the world I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away, all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the world I'm coming


[Yes I do love sharing music I think is awesome]

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Mein Pareshaan, Pareshaan, Pareshaan, Pareshaan :)

While this blog isn't a music blog, in recent times the things that have driven me the most crazy have been certain songs so I have been posting about them.

While I have been listening to this song for a while now, I thought it deserves a post.

I you haven't heard Pareshaan from Ishaqzaade, please do. [The audio on the video for some reason is very loud so please do lower it]. I believe this isn't the full song but it is a very good edited version.



Haven't watched the movie. Heard it wasn't great so I'll wait for when it comes out on DVD. However would have liked to watch Parineeti Chopra. Was quite impressed by her in Ladies vs Ricky Bahl. She seems to have some acting potential.

Lyrics for Pareshaan. 
[Version in the video]
   
Naye naye naina mere dhoonde hai
Darbadar kyun tujhe
Naye naye manzar yeh tak te hai
Isa kadar kyun mujhe
Zara zara phoolon pe jadne laga dil mera
Zara zara kaanton se lagne laga dil mera

Main pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan

Aatishein woh kahan
Main pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan
Ranjishein hai duan haan


Be baat khud pe marne lagi hoon
Marne lagi hoon
Be bak aahein, bharne lagi hoon
Bharne lagi hoon
Chaahat ke cheete hai, khaare bhi meethe hai
Main kya se kya ho gayi
Zara zara fitrat badal ne laga dil mera
Zara zara kismat se ladne laga dil mera

Main pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan

Aatishein woh kahan
Main pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan pareshaan
Ranjishein hai duan haan


I quite appreciate the lyrics because falling in love would be quite a Pareshaani.

Humour for the day

Do you know what women are really saying?
;)

Masks - Shel Silverstein

Just love this poem.
It's about so many things in life and not just about a boy and a girl (or a woman and a man). Read a few more poems by Shel Silverstein after I came across Masks but didn't love any as much as this one.
If you love it too, please spread it :)

She had blue skin,

And so did he. 

He kept it hid

And so did she.

They searched for blue

Their whole life through,

Then passed right by - 

And never knew.

Image source - http://socialismartnature.tumblr.com

Jaaniyan - Bilawal Baloch? Ek Tha Tiger?

Pani Da Rang post -  Pani Da Rang - Ayushmann Khurrana

I love finding new music and I love even more sharing the music I find. Recently I posted on Pani Da Rang. This week I present to you Jaaniyan. Apparently sung by Bilawal Baloch. But there are lot of videos and mentions of this song being in the movie Ek Tha Tiger, starring Salman Khan and Katrina Kaif. Certain sources mention that Jaaniyan which had vocals by Asif Nawaz, a Pakistani artist was reported to have been leaked from the film's soundtrack. So who is the actual singer? I don't know. Is the song in Ek Tha Tiger? I don't know either. 

Anyway none of this matters because the song is brilliant. I am sharing the Bilawal Baloch YouTube embed because it has a better video. Will share the a faster loading version at the end of the post (which has the Ek Tha Tiger post on it). So if you have a slow internet connection just jump to the second video.

Lyrics of the song -

Soreya Jiya Nahi Jaaye (Jiya Nahi Jaaye)

Soreya Naa Tarsa (Na Tarsaa)

Soreya Pheeka Jeevan (Pheeka Jeewan)

Soreya Rang Bhar Jaa (Rung Bhar Jaa)

Hafto Se Bane Saalon

Sab Gin Gin Main Guzaaru

Shaamein Lagti Hai Ab Toh Sazaaa

Jaaniyan Lambiyan Judaiyan

Jaaniyan Bin Tere Haareya

Ankhiyan Meri tarsan

Nazar Aaja [x2]

Soreya Raat Andheri (Raat Andheri)

Soreya Deep Jala (Deep Jalaa)

Soreya Darr Lagta Hai (Darr Lagta Hai)

Soreya Mujhko Bacha (Mujhko Bachaa)

Lambi Raatein Ye Daraye

Pal Pal Ye Jaalaaye

Aahe Rukti Nahi Mere Yaar

Jaaniyan Lambiyan Judaiyan

Jaaniyan Bin Tere Haareya

Ankhiya Meri Tarsan

Nazar Aaja [x2]

Dhoondoon Tujhe

Ab Aaa Mil Ja

Jaaniyan Lambiyan Judaiyan

Jaaniyan Bin Tere Haareya

Ankhiyaan Meri Tarsan

Nazar Aaja [x2]

The faster loading version of Jaaniya -

Enjoyyyy. If you too love Jaaniyan, please share it with your friends too. Great music should be shared far and wide :)

Pani Da Rang Contest

So needless to say I am crazy about this song. If you haven't seen my original blogpost about the same, check it out at - Pani Da Rang - Ayushmann Khurrana - Most Brilliant Song of 2012

Just got to know that there is a Pani Da Rang Contest with Ayushmann Khurrana. He basically gives the details of the contest in the video below - 

The details given in the video description are - All you have to do is... Upload your own version of 'Pani Da Rang' song in ENGLISH or HINDI and post it as a video response or comment. Click on the annotation appearing on the video to submit your 'Video Response'

You love the song 'Pani Da Rang' by Ayushmann Khurrana? Now it's your chance to win an opportunity to sing it with him & his friend Rochak Kohli.

Hurry! The hunt for the singer begins now 4th May 2012 And closes on 11th May 2012

If you want the link to this video click on - http://youtu.be/xhLiYYObdLw

In case you haven't heard the original song, firstly what's wrong with you? Secondly you can check it out below -

Presenting Pani Da Rang from Vicky Donor -

Pani Da Rang - Ayushmann Khurrana - Most Brilliant Song of 2012

If you haven't heard this yet, stop doing whatever you are and listen to it.

Presenting Pani Da Rang from the movie Vicky Donor (which surprisingly had some really good songs).
It is sung by Ayushmann Khurrana. Which again is quite a pleasant surprise because his voice goes perfectly with the song. The song is composed by Rochak Kohli & Ayushmann. Lyricists :Kusum Verma




I loved without even knowing the meaning of the lyrics because it sounds so great.

The lyrics (English meanings below the lyrics) -

Pani da rang Vekh Ke
Pani da rang Vekh ke
Pani da rang Vekh ke

ankhiyaanch hanju rudd de
ankhiyaanch hanju rudd de

mahiya na aaya mera mahiya na aaya
mahiya na aaya mera mahiya na aaya
ranjhna na aaya mera mahiya na aaya
ranjhna na aaya mera mahiya na aaya

aankha da noor vekh ke
aankha da noor vekh keee..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..

Kamli ho gayi tere bina
ajaa ranjhan mere
kamli ho gayi tere bina..
ajaa ranjhan mere
baarish barkha sabkuch pae gayi
aaya nai jind mere
baarish barkha sabkuch pae gayi
aaya nai jind mere

aankha da noor vekh ke
aankha da noor vekh keee..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..

Kothe uthe bai ke ankhiya milonde..
na jana humey to kabhi chod
tere utte marda pyar tainu kardaa..
milega tujhe na koi aur

tu bhi aa sabko chodke
tu bhi aa sabko chodke
meri aakhiyaach hanju rudd de,
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..

ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..
ankhiyanch..hanju rudd de..


For those like me who doesn't understand this much Punjabi, the translation of the meaning of the song -
(Courtesy bollywoodhumour.com)


When I see color of the water
Tears drop down from my eyes continuously

My beloved has still not come; my dearest has still not come

When I see shine in the eyes
Tears drop down from my eyes continuously

I am going crazy without you; now please come my love
Rain has already poured in
You still have not come my love

When I see the shine in the eyes
Tears drop down from my eyes continuously

We used to sit on the rooftop; looked into each other’s eyes
Don’t ever leave me and go
Someone who is ready to die for you, who loves you
You won’t find another person alike me

You also leave all behind and come to me
Tears drop down from my eyes continuously

When I see color of the water
Tears drop down from my eyes continuously

Tears drop down from my eyes continuously.


- Hope you enjoy this song even more with this English translation.

 All beautiful things should not just be appreciated but shared too so keep listening to Paani Da Rang and share it with your friends too.

I love the song so much that I set up a 'Fan Club' on Facebook at - https://www.facebook.com/VickyDonor.PaniDaRang - do like the page if you love the song :)

Dubai - Pictures from my trip

Impressive city :)

The Burj Khalifa :)
Very Impressive!

Over all - brilliant holiday. I think it would be very difficult to have a better vacation than this one. Thanks to everyone who make it special. Cheers.

Resolution for 2012

I'm waiting for the sun to come up while I write this. Watching the sunrise on 1st January has sort of become a tradition for me. I can't remember how or when it started but the idea was to see at least one sunrise a year. Many a times I have thought not to stay up so late and wait for the sun but rather rise with it and each time I fail.

Often while I'm waiting for the sun, I marvel about nature and how it awakens too each day. Sometimes I reflect on the year that was and other times I reflect on the year to be. Often I have thought even about the 'dhobis' because I always each year hear clothes being washed and I think how tragic is a life which has no holidays (breaks). I also try and think of resolutions for the new year knowing very well I'm not going to succeed in even a single. This year however I've decided to have just one simple single resolution. One that is easily attainable. I resolve to wake up to at least 12 sunrises in 2012. Simple enough. And if I decide to finish off these 12 sunrises in winter itself I don't have to wake up super early.

The reason to try this is so that I can at least make an effort to become a morning person.
Goodluck to me. Good thing about doing this again this year is that it is surprisingly cloudly today and that will ruin the sunrise and I get a second, third.....twelveth go at seeing the perfect sunrise.

You gotta love inverted text :D

I don't have an ǝıpdoɥʞ ıʇln ...it's just your uoıʇdǝɔɹǝd that is twisted :P